Les Brown says, "a setback is a setup for a comeback." What a great way to think about setbacks. Here's what I have to say about setbacks in your fitness program.
CHRIS: What do you think your body would look and feel like, if you continue to move like you did when you were a kid before fitness became about treadmills and calories. There is a better way, and now you found it.
Welcome to the Core Balance Podcast with your host, Chris Janke-Bueno.
Hello every one and welcome and thank you for joining me at the Core Balance Podcast. I am excited to be here today, because I am talking about a topic today that I think we can all relate to, I definitely can, and that is the concept of having a setback, and this is a question that I not only get asked a lot how do you deal with the set back but also something that I experience in my studio when I am training people, you know occasionally somebody will come in and they are not the person that they were last week, you know something has happened may be their stressed out, you know may be they haven’t been sleeping or eating quite right and their ability has just really diminished quite a bit, and I see it, the tendency for people is to really beat themselves up right like, ' Ah! last week, it just you know, I was so good, I was doing all these exercises and now I come in and look at me, you know you give me the basic exercises that you give to all the old people.’ You know all these judgments and self criticism and today I just wanna speak a little bit about that, and about what I think the best way to overcome or come back or to have a comeback and overcome is set back. So, just a little story first, it was a 2006, 2007 and 2008, and I started my first business it was called Functional Strength Training, I had a little studio, I had some clients and it was going really well, and in 2008 you guys probably remember this, economy just tanked and I lost almost all my clients overnight, I mean one month I paid rent and the next month I was looking at that rent amount that was due thinking 'oh my gosh, that is a huge number compared to what I earned that month,’ and so I had to [inaudible 02:17:02] the business and I had to basically start over, but before I started over that’s the set back part, that’s the year and a half of my life that I was questioning if I even still wanted to do this. I was questioning, changing careers, you know I got a little part time job that wasn’t enough to pay the bills but it was enough to, you know atleast provide a little bit of money and I helped out my wife with her business and for that year and a half, I was absolutely floundering, I was lost. So I can definitely relate to the setback, right. Now what did I do to come out of that, I think it was about half way through the setback, half way through that year and half time frame where I finally realized that I was in a setback, that I was not where I wanted to be, and then it was not necessarily, number one it wasn’t normal right, I expected more of myself and that’s why I had all this discomfort, right. It’s one thing if you are having a mediocre life and you are happy about it, that’s one thing right, that person I don’t know I can’t help them, nobody can help them until they decide like I want something better, right, but I was at this point where I had just a so, so, mediocre life, I wasn’t really showing up the way I really wanted to, but I was unhappy about it, and so I think that is the first thing is that provides the motivation, the spark to actually want to get better, and so with that spark I realized that what I needed to do is listen to people who were successful, and so I paid attention to everybody that I could around me who was already successful, and because it’s not you know, even if they are successful they are not going to give you their secrets all day every day. So, what I did was I started listening to Podcast and you know, YouTube videos and I started actually buying a few products with a little bit of money that I had and I started listening to these motivational masters and I really, I really dove in, and you know it’s interesting some of these motivational masters would say things like, they will give you an affirmation and you need to repeat it like I am powerful and I am manifesting my dreams or I don’t know whatever it is, and it was interesting because when I started doing that, I felt like such a liar because here I was, you know in the middle of a setback and at the same time I am saying I am powerful, I am manifesting my dreams, and I didn’t believe myself, right. Now this happens a lot and this is actually feedback that I get from a lot of people when I tell them to start affirmations, they go, ‘no, it is all fake, I don’t believe it.’ So here is the best description of why affirmations work when you see them with enthusiasm and conviction, and I completely forgot who said this and it’s unfortunate because it was amazing. Basically, oh I know who was, it was Earl Nightingale. So he said that your producing in your mind and body a synthetic experience. It’s not a real experience, but we learn through experience, right that’s why if something bad happens to you or you lose your job or you have a health setback or whatever it is, that we start to get down on ourselves because we're looking at what happened as evidence that x, y, z, fill in the blank of your belief, but what you are doing with affirmations is you're creating a synthetic or fake belief and you are basing it on nothing, absolutely nothing. You're basing it on the fact that you just said it and you believe it, and so you say something like ‘I am powerful, I am manifesting my dreams,’ whatever your dreams are right, and then you don’t believe it because it hasn’t happened yet, but what you need in order to believe it, you need repetition and so when I really turned to the corner with that setback and started to just arise to the top and I decided to start a business again and I decided to make the leap was when I realized that I needed to approach affirmations and just the process of conditioning my brain, I needed to approach that like a fitness program. Now even somebody who doesn’t know much about fitness would tell you that if you just do bicycles one time on one day, and never do them again, your biceps are not going to adapt and grow, and so I finally, I mean it hit me straight on the face that, well, okay, occasionally I am listening to these motivational gurus, but I am not doing it in a disciplined manner and so what I did is I decided to wake up a little bit earlier and just listen and repeat and then gradually I started to speak at the same time as this motivational master was and so I started to try to mimic their inflection. I tried to get my body involved into and act like I was speaking on stage. All these different things, these strategies that I did and guess what, soon may be it was three- six months, I started to really believe what they were saying and what I was saying back out, and then what was really important with that is that I started to let my body express itself as if I believed it meaning I started to move as if the same way I would move if I already believed it, and now this is something that I am saying this because it has been absolutely so overwhelmingly powerful to me. So here is the step by step. This is absolutely vital, right this can completely change your life, and I don’t say that likely this can absolutely completely change your life. So, how do you do it? This is the step by step that you will be able to start right now, and I urge you to start right now. It doesn’t have to be perfect yet. Start with anything and then gradually you will be able to refine this technique and adapt it to your situation, your time commitments and your goals.
So step number one: go on YouTube or use a Podcast. I want you to find somebody who inspires you; I want you to find somebody who is living the life that you wanna live. Now it doesn’t have to be exactly the life you wanna live, it could just be somebody with a lot of energy who has Podcasts or YouTube videos or something, some other audio program may be its an audio book that you purchased, right, so, you get something for free or something that you have to purchase for a little bit and commit to listening to that every single day for 30 days and I have a lot of recommendations for this, Earl Nightingale is good, he is you know, kind of a old school, he was around in the mid 20th century, Zig Ziglar, Tony Robbins, Les Brown all of these guys are absolutely just super motivational and listen, just listen for 30 days and you listen to the same one over and over and over again, and the reason is that we learn through repetition, and so if you just listen to something once just like lifting weights right, just like that Barbell Curl, you do one time and then your body forgets about it, your mind forgets about it. So you really need that repetition of information over time, over and over and over again. So you have that 30 days where you are listening to the same one. Now you should become an absolute expert at that one recording within 30 days. You should be able to at least spout off some lines from that, and I would recommend not only listening but also trying to speak at the same time with that motivational percent, and then after 30 days that’s your platform, your jumping off point, then you start to look for other motivational talks either by that person or by another person and just go from there and let it be a once the better time deal. Different people call it different things, the hour of power, the morning miracle or the magic morning or something like that. Whatever you call it, it’s an amount of time where you start to get clear on your goals and you start to listen to other motivational people who have achieved their goals. So, this by far is the best thing, I think you can do. It was the best thing that I could ever done and it completely worked, now I talk like one of those motivational gurus, if you had heard me a couple of years ago, it didn’t sound like this at all. I wasn’t motivated, I wasn’t using my body, I was kind of more going through life as if, I don’t know kind of I was kind of doing what people wanted me to do or what I thought they wanted me to do and that is just no way of live. so right now, I urge you to do this right now, find the audio program that you wanna listen to everyday for a month, hopefully it’s this one, I will be honored if it was, but if it’s not no problem, listen to something else, find something that you can commit to everyday, it might only be five minutes, if that’s realistic for you. So go for it, I would love to hear notes and stories about how it goes. This is your 30-day challenge and I urge you to take it right now. So, not specifically just about fitness, this is about everything in your life today, right. You have been listening to the Core Balance Podcast; I am your host Chris Junke-Bueno. We will talk again next time until then let’s be fit, let’s be healthy, let’s be happy.
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