In this episode I talk about how the journey toward our goal is like driving a car in the fog, you can only see a little bit in front of you but you can't see your destination.
Ships at sea are rarely ever pointed directly at their target. They're always course correcting, constantly shifting left and right in a zig-zag pattern.
When I realized that I wasn't going to be going straight ahead all the time, that took a lot of pressure off myself.
Why is this important?
The "how" of your goal will change on a day-to-day basis. But the "what" should never change. What do you want?
I recommend creating a mind movie, to remind yourself of the general direction that you're going. This is your North Star.
Watch this movie three times per day, morning, noon, and night. Then you may have to course correct periodically to get there. You will not always be going straight ahead. But you can see your North Star and you know where the eventual destination is.
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Core Balance Podcast Episode 32.
What do you think your body would look and feel like if you continue to move like you did when you were a kid, before fitness became about treadmills and calories. There is a better way and now you've found it. Welcome to the Core Balance Podcast with your host Chris Janke-Bueno.
Hello and welcome to the podcast. I want to talk today about goals, about progressing toward your goals. Now some years ago I realized this that my goals were not going to be as linear as I thought they should be meaning I don't have a start and then an end and then connect the two dots with a straight line. Thinking that I should, caused me a lot of stress. Thinking that there should be just as much progress today as there was yesterday and that's just the way it has to be, lot of stress. I kept pushing, pushing, pushing when sometimes I realize now, looking back that I needed to step back just a little bit, take a step to the right or left and then keep going in that direction. But when we make a goal we get so hung up on the fact that it has to go a certain way. When in reality even the most successful people that I have ever seen interviewed say that they had no idea how they were going to reach the goal, none whatsoever. But they said this is what I want. And then they took one step at a time maybe it was forward one day, maybe it was to the left one day, to the right one day.
Jack Canfield, he was the man who wrote Chicken Soup for the Soul, said that getting to your goal is a lot like driving your car in the fog. If you have your lights on, driving in the fog is no big deal. You can still see a little bit in front of you and you can see enough to navigate the road. But you can't see your destination and you can't necessarily even see what's coming after this turn that you are navigating. So you get a good map and you have confidence that if you just follow this turn and this turn and then all the turns throughout the journey that you will get to your destination. And sometimes you have to course correct. And interesting statistic ships that are out at sea are only actually are on target for a very small percentage of the voyage. Most of the voyage they are going the wrong direction, they are a little bit too far to the left, a little bit too far to the right and their entire journey is like a zigzag back and forth, back and forth, oops too far to the left, we got to go right; oops too far to the right, we got to go left. So it's this constant readjustment back and forth, back and forth and that's a great analogy too because that really is how it works. You are never going to know exactly every single step of the way what it's going to look like. And so you just have to commit to the outcome and say that I want to use this goal as my North Star, that's how ships navigated at least back in the olden days before GPS. But I'm using this goal as my North Star and some days I maybe a little bit too far to the right or little bit too far to the left or maybe I'm going to high, too low. But eventually I will get there. And that takes a lot of pressure off because instead of beating yourself up you can use whatever is happening in your life as feedback to basically just tell you to make a slight shift in direction, that's it.
So when I realized that paradoxically my productivity actually went up because there was no pressure, there was no pressure on myself and I was able to see all my goals in front of me and just do little course corrections to get there. So in your daily life the way that I think it is very effective to help manifest this particular mindset is create something that I call a mind movie. Now I didn't make up this concept but I have begun employing this and it's really, really powerful. A mind movie is basically a movie that you create for yourself with music, images and you could add text to it and so I use iMovie on my iPhone, you could also use iMovie on your computer or there are non-Apple movie editors out there as well that you can use. And basically what I did is I took a template that they already have and it has background music that's kind of high energy and I got a bunch of pictures and I put them in the movie and I got some text and I put them in the movie and then within 20 minutes because I already had this template that they gave me, that was included in iMovie on iPhone I created a reminder and it's one minute, high motivation music and graphics that represent my goal.
Now, how does this connect to what I was just talking about? Basically if you know where you are going you are always looking at that North Star or not always but daily, you are looking at that North Star to remind yourself of the general direction that you are going so you are looking at this mind movie to remind yourself of the general direction that you want to go in your life. And then whatever comes up during the day you navigate that with respect to how it relates to your goal. So just like I mentioned in the beginning, you may have to take a step to the left and then backwards and then to the right and you are not necessarily going toward your goal but you still have your goal in sight and you just choose to go backwards because right now at this time of your life that is what makes sense and you actually sometimes have to go backwards and then go around an obstacle or something like that. I know I'm being very metaphorical right now but I think it really proves a point, almost like if you are walking through a maze and in that maze you hit a dead-end, you can still see your North Star and you know that okay if I take a few steps backwards I can get out of this dead end and then I can turn left and then I can turn right and then I'm headed back in that direction so to speak. And that's really important because you don't get lost in the maze and you know where the maze is leading you, sometimes it can feel in our day to day life like we are in a maze, whether that's your health and fitness goal or maybe that's your relationship goal or maybe that's your business/career goal. The key is that you know where you are going. If you know where you are going and then you realize you have days that go exactly how you plan and then you have days that go nothing like you planned but that that is part of the process. You need those days. There's no way to function without those types of days. It gives you feedback as far as how you can make a course correction. And remember you are not going to be pointed at the destination for very long but you just keep course correcting left-right, left-right and just be gentle with yourself, forgive yourself when you take a misstep and then move on like driving your car through the fog and eventually you will reach that goal, but again you have to know exactly what that goal is for you to reach it.
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You've been listening to the Core Balance Podcast. I'm your host Chris Janke-Bueno. We'll talk again next time. Until then let's be fit, let's be healthy, let's be happy. It feels good to move, so keep moving.
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